Okay, maybe your guy might be better at talking issues out with you than mine was, but my ex-fiance of six years used to pull the same bullshit. He didn't like me going to see fucking HARRY POTTER because he knew I was in there swooning over Dan Radcliffe. He didn't want me to go to a Hanson concert (when I was twenty years old, not a psycho fangirl anymore) because, quote, "I know how you feel about Taylor." He didn't want me reading smutty stories, hell, he didn't even want me to buy a corset because he considered it "underwear" and "provocative" and didn't understand why I would want to wear one, because I obviously can't wear things just to feel pretty, it obviously meant I wanted everyone who laid eyes on it to offer me sex.
In short, he felt threatened by all this stuff. He didn't want me doing it because he felt like it would draw my attention away from him, change the way I felt about him in some way.
Like I stand a chance with Dan Radcliffe or Taylor Hanson. Please.
I have a feeling your boy's issues might be coming from the same place. Sounds like he's trying to steer you away from sex or provocative shit. If that's the case, you need to have a talk with him and say, "Listen, either you believe I love you or you don't. If you don't trust me, we don't need to be together, if you do, then you shouldn't be bothered by my writing/reading slash or listening to Marilyn Manson (Ed Note: Jesus christ. Who cares?) because it doesn't have any affect on how I feel about you."
Hope everything works out.
And DON'T give up anything for him. It's not worth it!
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Date: 2007-12-06 06:59 pm (UTC)Okay, maybe your guy might be better at talking issues out with you than mine was, but my ex-fiance of six years used to pull the same bullshit. He didn't like me going to see fucking HARRY POTTER because he knew I was in there swooning over Dan Radcliffe. He didn't want me to go to a Hanson concert (when I was twenty years old, not a psycho fangirl anymore) because, quote, "I know how you feel about Taylor." He didn't want me reading smutty stories, hell, he didn't even want me to buy a corset because he considered it "underwear" and "provocative" and didn't understand why I would want to wear one, because I obviously can't wear things just to feel pretty, it obviously meant I wanted everyone who laid eyes on it to offer me sex.
In short, he felt threatened by all this stuff. He didn't want me doing it because he felt like it would draw my attention away from him, change the way I felt about him in some way.
Like I stand a chance with Dan Radcliffe or Taylor Hanson. Please.
I have a feeling your boy's issues might be coming from the same place. Sounds like he's trying to steer you away from sex or provocative shit. If that's the case, you need to have a talk with him and say, "Listen, either you believe I love you or you don't. If you don't trust me, we don't need to be together, if you do, then you shouldn't be bothered by my writing/reading slash or listening to Marilyn Manson (Ed Note: Jesus christ. Who cares?) because it doesn't have any affect on how I feel about you."
Hope everything works out.
And DON'T give up anything for him. It's not worth it!