Slash and My Boyfriend =/= Friends
Dec. 5th, 2007 10:52 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
unavoidedcrisis
Ooookay. Way to throw a curve ball, boyfriend.
Craig informs me- right now, out of the blue- that he doesn't want me reading or writing any sort of slash fiction. At first I thought he meant with his laptop, but apparently he means all the time, ever, period. It scares him.
...
And now he's suddenly 'rescinding'. He says "sure, whatever, I don't care, do what you want." He thinks that I'm so mentally unstable that reading a story about a man with a knife will influence me to, I have no idea, cut myself and small children and cute furry animals.
Do I strike any of you as that fucking naive? Am I that weak willed that fanfiction can dictate how I live my life?
He's worried. Yeah, what the fuck ever. It scares him. Sure.
I'm both insulted that he thinks so little of me (I've been slashing since I was fourteen for god's sake, and not a single adorably wide-eyed kitten has fallen to my wrath yet) and I am shocked he is so suddenly objecting. He's known me for a year.
Now he's bringing up the fact that I listen to Marilyn Manson (very, very infrequently), and how upsetting that is for him.
Sometimes I feel like I don't know him at all.
Words are the most powerful thing, he says. Insight into the human soul and all that. Then you'd think he'd read my journal a little more often (read: ever).
And in case anyone was wondering, I'm going to keep on reading slash, and I just signed up for another one of those ultimately fun prompt table challenges of doom. Yay LJ.
Craig informs me- right now, out of the blue- that he doesn't want me reading or writing any sort of slash fiction. At first I thought he meant with his laptop, but apparently he means all the time, ever, period. It scares him.
...
And now he's suddenly 'rescinding'. He says "sure, whatever, I don't care, do what you want." He thinks that I'm so mentally unstable that reading a story about a man with a knife will influence me to, I have no idea, cut myself and small children and cute furry animals.
Do I strike any of you as that fucking naive? Am I that weak willed that fanfiction can dictate how I live my life?
He's worried. Yeah, what the fuck ever. It scares him. Sure.
I'm both insulted that he thinks so little of me (I've been slashing since I was fourteen for god's sake, and not a single adorably wide-eyed kitten has fallen to my wrath yet) and I am shocked he is so suddenly objecting. He's known me for a year.
Now he's bringing up the fact that I listen to Marilyn Manson (very, very infrequently), and how upsetting that is for him.
Sometimes I feel like I don't know him at all.
Words are the most powerful thing, he says. Insight into the human soul and all that. Then you'd think he'd read my journal a little more often (read: ever).
And in case anyone was wondering, I'm going to keep on reading slash, and I just signed up for another one of those ultimately fun prompt table challenges of doom. Yay LJ.
Hmmmm
Date: 2008-01-04 06:21 am (UTC)You haven't met me- yet. I'm one of Craig's old friends, and and ex of his to boot!
Craig means well, he truly does, but he's a touch too sweet for this old world. He truly MEANS well, he's not the controlling type, and he's only worried. He's an old soul, a kind soul, and he's a little old fashioned. Don't take what he says as not understanding- just explain your situation so he can understand where you're coming from and he can see where you are at.
I love him, but he can be misunderstood at the best of times. He's a real sweetheart, and a gem, and when he says these things, he's not being controlling, he's genuinely concerned.
People fear what they don't know, right? And he's just not familiar with the slash culture, that's all.
Anyway, sorry to interject my opinion where it is likely not wanted.